A Key to Not Fainting
In Oswald Chambers’ My Utmost for His Highest under the title, The Service of Passionate Devotion, he says, “Our Lord’s primary obedience was to the will of His Father, not to the needs of people— the saving of people was the natural outcome of His obedience to the Father. If I am devoted solely to the cause of humanity, I will soon be exhausted and come to the point where my love will waver and stumble. But if I love Jesus Christ personally and passionately, I can serve humanity, even though people may treat me like a ‘doormat.’ The secret of a disciple’s life is devotion to Jesus Christ, and the characteristic of that life is its seeming insignificance and its meekness.”
Let’s take what Chambers said and state it in CK language. “If the saving of your marriage is your sole devotion you will soon be exhausted and come to a point where you will give up or faint. However, if you are fully devoted to Jesus Christ and to His will, even if your wife/husband/children treat you like a doormat, you will continue to serve them and take on the characteristic of Jesus – meekness. The natural outcome of being fully devoted to Jesus is a restored marriage.”
So, there you have it. If you are considering giving up on your marriage, what you need to do is look for areas in your life where you are not fully devoted to Jesus. We all have those areas. Sometimes those areas have nothing to do with our marriage. If you have heard that ‘still small voice’ say that you need to rid yourself of selfishness and have refused to deal with that sin you are in a dangerous spot in your covenant keeping. Your desire should be to look and act just like Him.
So often our counsel to CKs is to deal with the sin in your life and allow the Holy Spirit to deal with your spouse. This fits in perfectly with what Chambers is saying. When your actions are to draw close to Jesus in order to please Him, then the outcome is that your spouse will desire to be close to you. You are able to feed God’s sheep (your family) when you are fully devoted to Jesus.
When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Feed my lambs.” 16 He said to him a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.” 17 He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, “Do you love me?” and he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep.” John 21:15-17 (ESV)
If you are not fully devoted to His will you get tossed about in the waves of life. The feeling of being a doormat overtakes you and you give up.
A prayer for this pitfall:
“Lord, I am tired of being tossed about in the storms of my life. Forgive me for taking my eyes off of You. Lord, may I become a disciple and become fully devoted to You. Help me take on the characteristics of a life of insignificance and meekness just as You did while here on earth. Allow me to see my family through Your eyes. May my five senses line up with Your Word. Allow me to see my situation through Your heart of love. I understand that this can only happen when I am fully devoted to You. Help me in this area. Help me desire You more than my marriage restoration. May others, including my spouse and children, see You when I come into their presence. Help me serve You personally and passionately so that I can feed my family. I can do none of this without You doing it through me. You in me, Lord, is my whole life. In Jesus Name. Amen”