Are You Blameless?
Psalm 37:18 The days of the blameless are known to the LORD, and their inheritance will endure forever.
Psalm 37:37 Consider the blameless, observe the upright; there is a future for the man of peace.
Psalm 18:25 and 2 Samuel 22:26 To the faithful You show Yourself faithful, to the blameless You show Yourself blameless.
While reading the Psalms during the early years of my stand, the word “blameless” seemed to keep popping up. I started to circle and highlight that word, and shortly realized that it must be a rhema word from God, meant to instruct me. As I pondered its meaning, I prayed and thought about ways I could show myself blameless. I realized that it was important to ‘abstain from all appearance of evil” (1 Thessalonians 5:22) as I prayed for my spouse to surrender to the Lord and for restoration of my marriage.
Living alone presented more opportunities for the “appearance of evil” than I’d first realized. Even though I had no intention of pursuing a new relationship and believed that my marriage would be restored, there were times when I had to be very mindful of those “blameless” scriptures, which were there to warn and guide me.
A neighbor I’d never met was riding his bike past my house (which is on a main road) and stopped to talk to me one day, as I sat on my porch. He had heard from another neighbor that my husband had moved out. He boldly stepped up onto the porch as we talked, sat down at my table, and within minutes was inviting me out for coffee. I told him I would not do that, as I was married and believing God for restoration of my marriage. He pursued, but I stood firm. Afterwards, I realized I should have spoken up before he moved onto the porch, since anyone seeing the situation would have suspected I was involved with another person, and it would certainly have given my husband reason to doubt my faithfulness. After that incident, remaining blameless was at the forefront of my mind.
There were times when I needed to get estimates or repairs done for the house, which required having other men enter my home. If my husband or someone he knew drove by and saw an unfamiliar vehicle, especially a truck or van, in the driveway it would be easy to assume the worst. I made a point of meeting contractors outside whenever possible, and if they had to come in, I’d let my husband know about it in advance and tried to have another person with me when they arrived, to avoid any misunderstanding.
My boss, who was my daughter’s age, asked me to lunch one day, probably because no one else wanted to go out that day. I told him I couldn’t as a married woman, which he thought was a bit extreme, not even knowing I was separated from my spouse. You never know who is watching and how things may be interpreted!
The enemy will take advantage of every opportunity to give a prodigal spouse reasons and excuses not to trust us. While we are not sinless, as believers in Christ we sin less and less as we grow spiritually. Being blameless means we cannot be accused of wrongdoing before people or God. Though we still sin, those sins have been covered by the blood of Jesus, and we are no longer deserving of blame. The Bible lists many of God’s children as blameless, including Noah, Abraham, Job, David, Zechariah and Elizabeth. Like us, none of them was without sin, but they were considered blameless in God’s sight because of the way they lived their lives, both inwardly and outwardly.
We are blameless inwardly by the death and resurrection of Jesus, once we trust Him as Lord and Savior and desire to live for Him. Jesus paid the price for all our sins and represents us before Father God as sinless and blameless individuals. How amazing that the God of the universe “chose us in Him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in His sight” (Ephesians 1:4).
Outwardly we can be morally blameless by demonstrating blamelessness in our private and public lives. We should “make every effort to be found spotless, blameless and at peace with Him” (2 Peter 3:14), and also to earn the respect of others who are watching us.
In Hebrews 13:4 the Bible specifically refers to remaining pure (blameless) in the matter of marriage and the marriage bed. Even while our prodigals are violating covenant, we are to remain blameless in every area of our lives, including this one. It is doable if we keep seeking God and His Word, since He instructs us to “control (our) own bodies in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” (1 Thessalonians 4:4). 1 Thessalonians 4:6-8 goes on to say those who commit sins of sexual immorality will be punished, and that anyone who rejects this instruction is rejecting God, not any human being.
Remaining blameless through faith in Christ and through lives that reflect God’s commands pleases the Lord and will result in favor, blessing and more than we can ask or imagine. It may not always be easy, but it will be SO worth it!
Ephesians 3:20 Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.