I Am Standing for the Healing of Our Marriage
Sponsored by The King’s Gardeners Ministries, Spokane Valley, Washington
I am standing for the healing of our marriage. I have been ridiculed for my stand by some who claim to be spiritually related to me and have been told that some of the members of my church think I am absolutely crazy. My reply to their criticism is, “They thought Noah was crazy for 120 years, but he floated and the critics drowned!”
God hates divorce and we are to hate what God hates. He even hates separation. Separation and divorce are accepted by a society built on the devil’s system, but the church should NEVER accept what God hates or support it in any way.
Many well-meaning people have told me, “You just need to get on with your life,” or, “Just move on!” I have two problems with that advice: 1) I do not find it in God’s Word, and 2) exactly what does that mean?
When my wife moved out, I considered many “available options” on the other side of divorce, but, as I prayed, I did not see how God could be in any of them. I tried to keep my thoughts and actions in agreement with what God would have me do. I reasoned that, if my wife had a stroke and could not help herself, I would not “move on” to someone else. If she had Alzheimer’s disease and didn’t know me, I would still be at her side. If she was in an accident and hospitalized in a coma, I would not look for a new spouse, or, if she was away for treatment of a mental disorder, I would wait for her return.
The fact that she has made a bad spiritual choice to leave the marriage God arranged, does not give me permission to make a bad choice as well. I made promises to her including being there “in good times and in bad” and I am determined to keep my word to her.
The truth is that she has been deceived into believing some of the devil’s lies about marriage and divorce. I believe that, one day, as I pray for her, love her unconditionally, and look for ways to encourage her, God will make a way for her to “come to her senses” and “escape the devil’s trap.”
To choose divorce or to accept a divorce is to believe that God can do everything except heal a troubled marriage. Divorce says to the world that there are things God cannot do. It says that we believe that He takes care of His children…until it comes to a troubled marriage.
Here are many things that can be done, and should be done, when the thought of divorce comes up:
- Reject it as from the devil – it is!
- Pray – it works. Prayer is a missile for which there is no anti-missile, and hits the target every time.
- Seek help. It is available from those who put the teachings of God first.
- Agree with God that marriage and family are important enough to save at ALL costs.
Taking a believer, a brother or sister in Christ, to divorce court is not God’s way of doing things. His instruction in I Corinthians 6:1-6 is clear and tells us that we are not to take a brother or sister to a worldly court but that disputes are to be settled in the church. Divorce does not solve marriage problems and the thought that there is recovery after divorce is a myth.
We are not God’s coroner to pronounce death upon a marriage (the church isn’t either). Neither should we be the undertaker to bury marriages. God calls us to the ministry of RECONCILIATION. We should take couples to the throne of God for healing.
When people are sick we pray for healing. We should also pray for the healing of sick marriages. Anything less or anything else means we do not believe all of God’s Word. Hebrews 11:6 declares, “Without faith it is impossible to please God.” The faithless support divorce and God is not pleased. Those who agree with God’s Word support and practice forgiveness and reconciliation. THAT is His will and in THAT He delights!
“I do” is for a LIFETIME.
I said “I do” and I STILL DO.