Mother’s Day Thought on “Mini-Me”
This blog post has been stirring in my heart for some time – both because of personal conviction and cultural pervasiveness. What is it that has been stirring?? It’s the “mini-me” culture that has invaded mother-daughter relationships. I’ve seen it in clothing catalogs and social media. And I’ve beamed inwardly and outwardly when hearing others refer to our daughter being my “mini-me.” This beaming, however, ended with the Lord’s conviction and the vision of something greater.
At the root of my conviction was selfishness and a flattery-hunger that begged the question, “Do I really want her to be just like me?” And the answer is a resounding no! I don’t even know the full depravity of my own heart, but I know enough to acknowledge that desiring that my daughter become a miniature me is subpar – it is not God’s plan for her.
I praise God that our daughter has been saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ. As the beloved of God she is “a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17) The word “new” in this text means “never seen before.” God is at work in His children to continually make us new, conforming us to the image and likeness of His perfect Son, not His imperfect creatures.
When we embrace the “mini-me” culture we diminish and disregard God’s vision for our children. “Mini-me-ness” eclipses the greater goal of becoming like Jesus. The Greek word for Christian actually means “little Christ.” And if we’re really following the Lord ourselves, that is what we will desire for our offspring – to day by day, more and more love and become like Christ.
Can we set a good example in our faith? Absolutely. Hebrews 13:7 says, “Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God. Consider the outcome of their way of life, and imitate their faith.” We can demonstrate faith to our children by living in need of our Savior, by shining the light on Jesus and His word, and trusting that He who began the good work will be faithful to complete it. Will we do this perfectly? Absolutely not. But as a friend reminded me yesterday, God’s grace fills in the gaps. And even in our failures – many and varied that they are – we can teach repentance and celebrate God’s forgiveness. We will disappoint and fail our children, but God never will.
As Mother’s Day approaches, let me remind you, the “mini-me” mindset is a terrible goal. Likemindedness in Jesus Christ is a greater goal that is worth desiring and pursuing. So my prayer for all you mamas and daughters out there is Philippians 15:5-7. “May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”
And I thank our children for making me a mama. As you grow up, graduate, marry and live your own lives may you rest and grow – rest in God’s love for you through Jesus and grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord as the Holy Spirit leads, guides, convicts, comforts and counsels you all the days of your life.