New Year Encouragement
I remember every year on New Year’s Eve wondering if the new year would bring marriage restoration to our family. Would Rex ever change? Is next year the one where God would grab his heart and turn it around toward Him and make him see me as a changed woman? Why? Why, God, is this taking so long? Does this sound familiar?
If it does let me share with you a few things I learned while traversing the restoration path:
- It’s not about you, your spouse or your marriage. It is about God’s image on earth. You see, God was not getting much glory from your marriage. This is a hard reality to grasp. Your marriage was not a picture of how much God loved His Church. Ephesians 5:21-33 says, “Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another. Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage. No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.” God want His character reflected in your marriage. (MSG)
- Jesus loves you too much to leave you the way you were. He wants you to have His very best while here on earth. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” (ESV) He knows obedience is the path to this abundance. I Samuel 15:22 says, “And Samuel said, ‘Has the Lord a great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to listen than the fat of rams.’”
- You have not been forsaken. God has not and will not leave you. I love how the Amplified Bible states Hebrews 13:5, “Let your character or moral disposition be free from love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and craving for earthly possessions] and be satisfied with your present [circumstances and with what you have]; for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]”
- He will be faithful to His Word. Marriage covenant was His idea, not man’s. Romans 9:28 says, “For the Lord will execute His word upon the earth [He will conclude His dealings with mankind] completely and without delay.” (AMP)
- This is a thought by Duke Rohe, a guest writer for CKI:
“It’s not fair! Man’s heart is always seeking equity. Fairness is universally sought but individually interpreted. It is a comparison between what you feel is deserved and what providence has dealt you. It wasn’t fair that Jesus was placed on a Cross and died for your sins, yet He endured crucifixion to do the will of His Father.
“God never promised fairness, but He did promise promotion in His kingdom. His heart always seeks to bless you beyond fair. To be joint heirs with Christ. To be His adopted children. To walk worthy in a manner that is fitting to Him and not by your own standards.
“Making life fair is not God’s idea. He makes life holy. You weren’t born for fairness, but forgiveness and righteousness.”
I encourage you in this New Year to not grow weary in your “well doing.” Galatians 8:9 says, “Let us not grow weary or become discouraged in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap, if we do not give in.” (AMP) Continue in the fight for your marriage because the enemy has already been defeated. Let us all declare, proclaim and decree that our God is a heart changer. He has changed your heart and He will change your spouse’s heart. He is able. I believe we will see thousands of marriages restored in 2018 because of the power of our Jesus.
Happy New Year